Even as I re read the title of my Blog Post I can't help but chuckle to myself. You see the last blog post I wrote was well over a year ago and hear I am writing about consistency, you see the irony in that right? Oh well , no time like the present to take your own advice:)
The spawn of this topic hit me in the stomach (or was that the baby kicking) yesterday as I was watching Soul Surfer, the movie based off pro surfer Bethany Hamiltons shark attack. I mean I'm crying, more like sobbing watching this girls story. The tears were for her undying dedication to her dream, not the loss of her arm. Everyday, she showed up for herself, pushing herself into the waves, waking at the crack of dawn because she was filled with a passion most of us never feel, let alone, let drive us. Sitting there watching this I started feeling sorry for myself , going into the story of " if only I had stayed on the beach i could be a pro surfer by now" " Im not great at anything" "I cant even put my mind to one thing like bettering my buisness " etc...you know the self depricating talk can go on forever, but I was able to yank myself out of it, hop on my paddleboard and shake the negative drowing that was about to happen.
I was sitting on my board in deep reflection of what it would take for me to feel satisfied with the direction my life was going in that moment...Consistency in actions everyday, was the answer that came back to me from the vast open water I was facing. I also asked myself where I felt I was consistent in my life and I was deeply aware that it was in the way I teach Pilates. When I teach I show up for my clients everyday with the same intention and the same mindset. I have learned to leave my "shit" at the door and be fully present with my clients because guess what? most of them have brought their shit with them and if I have my shit and they have theirs well that's a fucking mess. When you are dealing with others people's shit or emotional baggage... same same,.it can become exhausting which is why my consistency in not being a coddeler is what in my opinion makes the biggest change in people's lives.
Thinking about this as the waves gently roll under me I ponder what other areas a consistent action practice can serve me? So many ideas started rolling in... write your blog more, share more authentic stories with the world, make videos to start a series, move your body with intention everyday, mediatate, food prep, tell the people you love that you love them, etc... Okay, yes I want all those things to be constants in my life and I know what I want and I know what my great dream is so what the hell...and then I realized the less consistent I am in the way I want to be ,the more I allow for fear to develop in that space and the more the fear, the less consistency. Why does it work that way? Simple really, consistency provides security and a sense of certainty, and that speaks to some basic human needs.
Why do we stay in a job we dont like...you are certain you are getting that pay check in two weeks...therefore you feel secure...becuase there is a consistent action every two weeks....
Why do you follow certain instagramers or blog posters ...you are certain you can go to their page and find something new they have shared...that provides you with a sense of security that your okay or the recipe will work...because they are consistent in showing up to their public.
By now I am sure you see where I am going here and if your feeling more confused then ever shoot me a message I will be happy to clarify:)
The point is, like the soul surfer, if you want to be pro surfer one day you have take consistent actions EVERY DAMN DAY to make that your reality. If you want to have the most incredible romance you have ever had show up for your lady or lad EVERY DAMN DAY, if you want to be a great chef ...well you know what you have to do. I realized something sitting out on my board yesterday. I know I have something important to say. I know I have a great story to share and I know I can make an impact on peoples lives. I also know I havent fully showed up naked and unafraid because sometimes my sharing might shed some light on some things I've kept in the dark. I have been scared about what the world might think or if peple even care what I have to say , but you know what else I realized while in the water...I dont give a Fuck! I mean that in the most tenderness of ways, but I dont. I dont care if people find my message useful or helpful because thats not why Im here. If a millon people view my blog (yeah im on the ellen show for sure!!) but only one reaches out and tells me I had an impact on her/his life, I consider myself to be a success.
Im sharing because this is my passion, this is what excites me, because I know and I believe I have something important to say, its not the people's belief that drives me , its my belief in what I know I can achieve if I can show up with consistency in action for myself EVERY DAMN DAY!